Love always knows it’s ups and it downs. Through this journey we learn important lessons. This is the love lesson you need to learn in 2018:
Aries (March 21 To April 19)
You’re usually a confident sign in life and in love, Aries, and this year will be no exception. But you will have to learn how to temper your fiery desire to leap to conclusions, and meet your partners’ needs in the here and now. Stay humble, Aries. A relationship is about two people, not just you. Ask a Cancer for their secrets to love.
Taurus (April 20 To May 20)
Taurus, you need a relationship that you can chew on. And you might have found that in your committed partnerships, as well as your friends. But your love still has some growing to do, particularly in terms of knowing the difference between love and attachment. Look to a Libra to advise you on how to rise above and let go.
Gemini (May 21 To June 20)
When Gemini is looking for someone to be with, you’re really in search for your long lost twin. 2018 is going to teach you that this twin lives inside yourself. You are your own closest sibling. Learning this lesson is the only way to stop losing yourself in relationships. This is a good time to ask an Aquarius how they always manage to preserve a sense of self.
Cancer (June 21 To July 22)
Cancer, every time you fall in love, you don’t actually have to turn to a puddle of goo, nor do you need to retreat inside your shell. 2018 will present you with some safe places where you can practice being both hard and soft at the same time. Crabs live at the tideline, the nooks and crannies between sand and sea. Your challenge is to learn how to stop going to extremes. Ask a Leo what it means to be brave.
Leo (July 23 To August 22)
Leo, you love the glitz and glamor of the spotlight, but 2018 is going to make you prove what you’re really made of. Your pride can get you into too many partnerships that don’t actually work for you. 2018 is going to teach you to love the person inside of you as much as what you show to the world. When you learn this lesson, you’ll finally stop loving like you have something to prove. Ask a Sagittarius for tips on how they tend to their inner flame.
Virgo (August 23 To September 22)
As for you, Virgo, 2018 will be the year you will begin to enjoy more stability in your partnerships than you did before. This year will give you lessons in how to define the way in which you approach those partnerships. Exploring new structures within your partnerships will give your love clear definitions. Ask a Pisces how to keep old love looking like new.
Libra (September 23 To October 22)
Libra, you are very good at exploring all the ways for you to not be alone with yourself. Surrounding yourself with people who love you is all very well and good, but 2018 is going to force you to tend your inner flame. It’s advisable to find ways to be single and explore uncharted territories solo. See if a Capricorn will tell you about solitude.
Scorpio (October 23 To November 21)
Waves of upheaval will characterize your romantic relationships in 2018, Scorpio. This year will teach you how to surf them. When your love life threatens to crush you, you have the tendency to strike out willy-nilly and land your stinger wherever it hurts. In 2018, you need to learn how to channel your poison more acutely to determine the exact places in your life that need to be destroyed in order to nurture new growth. Ask a Taurus how to nurture a garden for your relationship.
Sagittarius (November 22 To December 21)
2018 wants you to release the skeletons you’ve been holing up in your closet, Sagittarius. This year, something surprising will come along in your love life that will rattle up the way you’ve viewed romance in the past. Whatever you believed about love before, this is the year to start studying a new philosophy. Ask a Virgo how they learned to settle down.
Capricorn (December 22 To January 19)
Let 2018 be your year of liberation, Capricorn. Break down the walls you have built around the thought of committed partnerships. Challenge the orthodox views you hold toward family and work. This year will hold painful lessons that lead you to find a revolutionary love. Ask an Aries how they stopped being hurt by false starts or failed expectations.
Aquarius (January 20 To February 18)
In 2018, Aquarius, you’re going to want to keep continually acting out. There’s a time and place to throw your tantrums or else you risk becoming a big windbag. This year has important lessons for you about speaking and silence. Ask a Gemini how they hold an audience.
Pisces (February 19 To March 20)
The lesson for you this year, Pisces, involves learning how to stick to your channels. You have the tendency to want to explore the deep end with romantic partnerships, but this time, visit that territory in your dreams. This means cutting off relationships that drain your reserves. Ask a Scorpio how to defend yourself.
(March 21st to April 19th)
Because you won’t let yourself find your soulmate. Instead, you’re convinced that until you’ve done a certain amount of things independently (traveled here, worked there) you are not allowed to be in love. You haven’t yet realized that you can have a partner and still have a very independent life.
(April 20th to May 21st)
Because you are convinced that your path to love has to follow a specific formula. Instead of embracing the fact that love is completely unpredictable and random and bizarre, you want it to make sense and you want it to follow a specific set of rules, but it never will. And until you make peace with that, you won’t find your soulmate.
(May 22nd to June 21st)
Because you think you don’t deserve love. Even if on the surface you are warm and open and fun, internally you have managed to convince yourself that you are not good enough to have that deep love that everyone else has. So you find yourself self-sabotaging any romance or potential romance that is making you happy, because you’re more scared of experiencing that intense happiness than you are of being alone.
(June 22nd to July 22nd)
Because you’re still being weighed down by past pain, of your own accord. You haven’t yet learned to deal with your pain and then let it go. Instead, you have a tendency to live in past hurt and dwell in it without ever dealing with it, so there is no room in your heart for new love because so much of it is taken up by toxic thoughts and feelings of past pains.
(July 23rd to August 22nd)
Because you don’t know how to apologize or swallow your pride in your relationships. You have ended a lot of wonderful things you had going on because you were too stubborn to admit when you were wrong, or you tried to control everything, or you couldn’t figure out how to leave your ego at the door. Until you start managing your pride and working on humility, you’re going to have a difficult time finding that soulmate.
(August 23rd to September 22nd)
Because you pull out the problems in any relationship that you’re in. And you use that as an excuse for why you should end things (just to protect yourself or keep yourself from getting hurt first). Instead of accepting that no relationship is perfect, you’re convinced that your soulmate needs to meet every requirement you have and that the relationship must be flawless – which is impossible. Until you figure out the balance between having standards and understanding that love will have flaws, you won’t find your soulmate.
(September 23rd to October 22nd)
Because you don’t know how to prioritize your relationship. It’s not that you’re supposed to drop everything else in your life the minute you have a significant other. But you’re so worried about pleasing everybody and keeping everything the way it is that you don’t know how to adapt when a new love comes into your life. Instead of realizing that there is a healthy balance that can occur when a relationship becomes a part of your life, you end up neglecting it or avoiding it out of fear, which ultimately makes your partner feel unloved or unwanted and leads to them walking away.
(October 23rd to November 22nd)
Because you spend all your time thinking about everybody else’s relationships instead of just being present in your own. You’re constantly comparing your love life to everyone else’s, instead of just focusing on your life and what makes you happy. Until you can stop looking at your love life only in relation to everyone else’s, you’re not going to have much luck.
(November 23rd to December 21st)
Because you’re too comfortable being passive. You don’t want to act, you don’t want to make the big decisions, you don’t want to put yourself out there. You just want love to happen to you, because you’re only comfortable reacting to things instead of also learning how to sometimes instigate things on your own.
(December 22nd to January 20th)
Because you compartmentalize love. Instead of letting love and dating and relationships blend naturally into the other areas of your life – family, work, hobbies, etc – you just want to keep it separated because it’s easier to control that way. Once you learn that love is supposed to weave into your life instead of being a standalone category, you’ll have a lot more luck finding your soulmate.
(January 21st to February 18th)
Because it’s impossible to find your soulmate when you’ve put a steel wall around your heart. You are scared of getting hurt, which is understandable. But everyone is scared of getting hurt. And the reason why so many of your friends have found their soulmate and you haven’t is because they’ve been willing to put their heart on the line, to open up and go out on a limb and risk being rejected. Once you do that, everything will change. It might not work immediately – you very well may experience rejection and heartache and pain. But in all that, love is waiting somewhere. You just have to go for it.
(February 19th to March 20th)
Because you avoid big decisions. You avoid going after what you want, you avoid serious talks, and you avoid actually trying to figure out what you do want. Once you set aside some time in your life to reflect, and learn about yourself, and figure out what it is you are looking for, you will get that much closer to finding your soulmate.