You’re so vain, you probably think this piece is about you.
When you’ve broken up with someone or they dumped you, do you ever feel as if you got to say everything you needed to say? If you’re not expecting a breakup, you may be too stunned to say what you’re really feeling, but even if a breakup is long and drawn out and you try and say everything, there still seems to be some residual feelings.
Once you’ve entered the “no contact” zone with your ex, all communication ceases and you know that saying that one thing you wanted to say will be considered inappropriate, crazy and wrong, so you don’t say it.
But just because you’ve broken up with someone and one or both of you has moved on, it doesn’t mean that you don’t still have a variety of feelings about them. We hold a lot of our feelings back when we think we’ll be judged for expressing them. Some people can end a relationship and never look back, while others obsess and carry on conversations with their ex all in their mind.
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Maybe you’re still friends with your ex and don’t want to jeopardize that friendship with a litany of everything you think they did wrong in your relationship — how you think that they mistreated you, so you pretend that you’re fine with the way things are.
Sometimes we don’t say the things we’re thinking because we know it will devastate the people we want to say them to. We don’t want to be mean, but other times, we want to strike out and hurt them as they hurt us. But we usually just hold back and think our negative thoughts about our exes without letting them know how their happiness with their new life hurts us.
You want to be mature and the bigger person and let things go, but that can be very challenging when you’re still in a place of pain and confusion. Here’s what you wish you could say to your ex, based on your zodiac sign.