(March 21st to April 19th)
Because he’s the reason you don’t look at love as a chore or a stifling element in your life or a sign that you’re settling – being in love with him just makes your world bigger, makes your life more exciting, and makes you feel like you’re still free even in your committed relationship.
(April 20th to May 21st)
Because being with him was the first time you realized that love (even when difficult) should only bring you happiness, joy, and a sense of belonging, rather than being something making you feel constantly insecure, jealous, and unworthy.
(May 22nd to June 21st)
Because even if it took you a very long time to warm up and to open up emotionally with him, this is the first relationship where you are now completely yourself, flaws and all, instead of trying to be someone you’re not.
(June 22nd to July 22nd)
Because all the negative tendencies you’ve had in other relationships (feeling insecure, letting your emotions take over your rational thinking, being overly sensitive, looking for problems where there are none) have taken a 180 with him – even if you’re still working through your past relationship issues, being with him makes you feel confident, secure, relaxed, and peaceful. Finally.
(July 23rd to August 22nd)
Because this is the first relationship where you’ve actually been forced to swallow your pride and to not expect to get your way all of the time; being with him has shown you that relationships are a two-way street and that you can’t control every aspect of it all. It’s the healthiest relationship you’ve been in maybe ever. Even though it still feels unfamiliar and unlike other relationships, you really love who you are with him.
(August 23rd to September 22nd)
Because he’s eased and assuaged your anxieties, worries, and self doubts more than anyone else has ever been able to do. With him you feel supported and encouraged enough to tackle your negative thinking and to work towards becoming the person you’ve always wanted to be.
(September 23rd to October 22nd)
Because for the first time, you find yourself actively making choices in your love life with him – instigating serious conversations, openly admitting your feelings for him, not being afraid of commitment, doing your fair share of being the first to take action when a challenge comes up in your relationship. In previous relationships, you never used to be like this – you were flakey and noncommittal; but you love him enough that you find yourself seeking out choices and decisions all on your own.
(October 23rd to November 22nd)
Because you’ve stopped looking at relationships (and your partner) as a competition – you’re not trying to have the upper hand, or to have more of the control, or to keep secrets in order to maintain power. With him you find yourself releasing some of your old habits because you care so much about this thing that you want to bring your best self to it.
(November 23rd to December 21st)
Because with him, you’re not afraid to confront the difficult issues and problems head-on. In the past, because of your optimistic (and often passive) nature, you’ve wanted things to just sort themselves out and you’ve waited for issues to just disappear. But because you’re so invested in this relationship and because you love the person you are with him, you find yourself finally being the type of person who’s active and purposeful about what happens to their relationship.
(December 22nd to January 20th)
Because being with him has finally convinced you to give yourself permission to let go a little bit – to remember that careers are important but that it’s also important to take care of yourself, to remember that it’s important to make room in your life for lightness and silliness, and to let yourself spend a little less time being fatalistic and a little more time looking on the bright side.
(January 21st to February 18th)
Because you’re finally opening up emotionally of your own accord. No one is forcing you to be vulnerable or to refrain from your tendency to remain emotionally attached – you just trust this man so much and feel so comfortable and safe and like yourself around him that you find yourself wanting to purposely be vulnerable and open with him, and that’s never happened before.
(February 19th to March 20th)
Because he’s the first person who’s ever made you feel like you’re truly deserving of love, like you’re not being taken advantage of, and like you can be the one who gets taken care of for once in your life.