I do not think dating has ever been easy, but I feel like it’s tough these days. If you want to find a partner with whom you can stay together for a long time, you will experience a rude awakening, because it is quite difficult to connect when people are not trying too hard.
Here are 13 reasons why modern relationships fail:
1. NOBODY WANTS TO GIVE EFFORT.
In a world of instant gratification, the process of meeting another person seems too boring and time-consuming for many people. Each generation is more impatient and apathetic than the last, and all the conveniences available to us may be to blame.
2. NOBODY WANTS TO BIND.
There are a million options that are all easily accessible through dozens of one-touch apps. Why should one commit to only one person? There are too many possibilities and they are all too practical. If you are someone who really wants to have a steady relationship, the lack of interest in monogamy will make you crazy.
3. NO ONE CAN UNDERSTAND WHY THE ONE NIGHT STAND DOES NOT SATISFY THEM.
It feels like eating too much sugar. It tastes good in the beginning, but you end up feeling a little bit sick. Everybody wants to have a casual relationship, but nobody seems to enjoy it so much.
But if people took the trouble to stay longer with a partner, they would realize that a quick number is not working. You really have to work hard to get a satisfying result.
4. NOBODY ESTIMATES THE RIGHT PROPERTIES OF ITS PARTNER.
There is this fascination with the idea of who someone is and not reality. The proliferation of social networks and app profiles does not help in this case at all. This leads to a superficial perspective and the occupation with physical attraction, instead of paying attention to a person’s personality.
5. NO ONE FEELS THE DRANG TO BE WITH ONE PERSON TOGETHER.
If you ask someone to bind you, you are not cool, so those who want it are afraid to even ask for it. They are afraid that if they put any conditions, they will lose the little bit they already have. In a world where the term “fast relationship” plays an important role, it is no wonder that romance is ruined.
6. NO ONE WANTS TO GET COMPROMISE.
If someone is not used to making compromises, why would he suddenly want to start with a partner? This person wants what she wants and when she wants it. Relationships are almost impossible without compromise, so the dating dies out before it even has a chance to get started.
7. NOBODY UNDERSTANDS HOW TO DONE CORRECTLY.
It looks like dating is a lost art. The couples either go out with other couples, or have sex as soon as they get to know each other. It is almost unthinkable to invite a woman on a classic date. The social manners are completely forgotten and nobody decides to have a personal conversation.
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8. NO ONE COMMUNICATES GOOD.
Face-to-face communication skills have dropped to an embarrassing level because everyone is only communicating by writing messages. People just stare into their cell phones, so it’s no wonder they can barely get to know each other.
9. NOBODY HAS A RATE TO LOSE DOWN.
The only moment a person feels a sense of urgency is when he wants to start a family. Usually he then tries to find someone who wants the same. Those who do not want children or do not want them right now have no reason to settle down.
10. NOBODY FINDS A REAL CONNECTION.
It’s so hard to get people to sit down and talk seriously without being distracted or looking at their phone. If someone invites you on a date and you two have a real connection, then a miracle has happened.
11. EVERYONE LISTENES AFTER A FEW WEEKS TO BEMÜHEN.
As soon as the appeal of dating with a new person subsides, it suddenly becomes boring for everyone. There is simply no staying power. Everybody changes the partner as fast as possible. If you’re someone looking for a long-term relationship, then that fact is extremely depressing and confusing to you.
12. NOBODY EVESTS THE COMPLEXITY OF A TRUE RELATIONSHIP.
There is much to say about a true, deep and honest relationship. It requires a lot of work, but it also adds value to your life. This is not something you can just throw away like that, but many people do not want to have a serious relationship. There is an obvious lack of effort and maturity in modern dating.
13. NOBODY IS READY TO DO WHAT IS NECESSARY.
Yes, it’s true, a relationship requires work. Anything worthwhile in life requires some endurance and dedication. There are hard times and struggles, but that does not mean you should give up. But in today’s dating world, most people do not feel like entering into a relationship. They do not want to experience disappointment, so they think it’s better to stay single.
Unfortunately today one forgot the value of a fixed relationship and is satisfied only with small bites. It is sad how we run after the quick gratifications, and have lost the courage and the dedication to a deeper bond.
I do not want to believe that love and romance are extinct, I still firmly believe that we can save them if we start with us and set boundaries and higher standards. We should never, but never really, settle for less, just for fear that we could go out of business. Because as soon as we do that, we agree to the current state.
If we want a real relationship, it has to be made clear from the beginning, we have to be able to express our wishes, give the relationship the time to develop without having to interfere with third persons, get to know each other and know if we are on the same wavelength, before we sleep together.
A relationship is very valuable, it’s time to realize that we need to put some effort into it to reap the rewards.