Psychologist Arthur Aron conducted an amazing experiment 20 years ago. He invited a man and a woman to the laboratory of strangers previously, whom he invited to answer 36 questions. People had to answer sincerely, and after discussing the issues, the couple looked into each other’s eyes for 4 minutes. Six months later, these people were ready to get married . The secret of experience is that general openness is incredibly close. Later, it was precisely these issues that began to be used everywhere in the treatment of relationships. Nothing refreshes feelings like a confidential conversation. Here is a list of these questions:
- Choosing from everyone in the world, who would you invite to visit for dinner?
- Would you like to be famous? In what field?
- Before you make a phone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
- How do you imagine the perfect day?
- When was the last time you sang alone with you? And for someone else?
If you could live to 90 and save either the mind or the body of a thirty year old in the last 60 years of your life, what would you choose?
- Do you have a secret feeling about how you will die?
- What are three common features that you and your partner have?
- What do you feel most grateful for in your life?
- If you could change anything in the process of your upbringing, what would it be?
- In 4 minutes, tell your partner the story of your life in as much detail as possible.
- If you could wake up tomorrow, having acquired quality or ability, what / what?
If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about you, about your life, about the future or about anything else, what would you like to know?
- Is there anything you have dreamed of doing for a long time? Why didn’t you do this?
- What is the greatest achievement of your life?
- What do you value most in friends?
- What is your most cherished memory?
- The scariest memory?
- If you knew that within one year you would suddenly die, would you change anything in your current life? Why?
- What does friendship mean to you?
- What role do love and affection play in your life?
- In turn, name the positive characteristics of your partner. A total of five points.
- How close are your family members? Do you think your childhood was happier than most other people have?
- What do you think about your relationship with your mother?
- Make three truthful sentences, starting with “we.” For example, “We both feel in this room …”.
- Continue this phrase: “I would like to share with someone …”.
- If you were planning to become a close friend to your partner, please tell us what, in your opinion, he should know about you.
- Tell your partner what you like about him; be extremely honest, say what you could not say to a stranger.
- Share an unpleasant moment in your life with your partner.
- When and why did you last cry?
- Tell your partner what you already like about him.
- What is too serious, what jokes are out of place?
- If you were to die this evening, not being able to communicate with anyone, which, not told to anyone, would you regret most? Why haven’t you told them this yet?
- Your house with all your property caught fire. After saving relatives and pets, you have time to run into the house again and save one thing. What could it be? Why?
- Which of your family members’s death would hurt you the most? Why?
- Share your personal problem and consult with your partner about how he or she would handle it. Then ask your partner what they think about your choice of problem.
This list was returned from twenty years of oblivion by The New York Times columnist Mandy Len Katron, who recently decided to repeat Dr. Aron’s experiment on herself and her acquaintance. The experience was a success and its participants really fell in love with each other.