Relationship Guidance for the ENTJ
As an “executive,” you have high expectations for pretty much everyone, especially your romantic partner. You know what you expect from them and if they don’t pass muster, you may feel personally let-down. Although you can easily rise to the challenge of a debate, you possess the necessary maturity to step back hear your partner’s concerns, ideas, and feelings – just take care to remind yourself of this once in a while. You aren’t completely unaware of the feelings of those around you but you might have a difficult time talking about emotional topics. Bear in mind that your partner, especially if he or she is a “feeling” personality, may need to occasionally hear some words of affection every now and then just to double-check that you’re still interested in them.
You’re very good at turning problems into solutions and your experience in such has given you an unshakable sense of confidence. This can be extremely attractive to potential partners, but try not to let yourself get out of hand – your potential/current partner deserves the chance to shine as well. You might be tempted to completely take control but remember that your partner can and probably will be affected by your actions. Although they aren’t likely to be bad, your partner still needs to have a valued and productive role in the relationship. Consult him or her during the decision-making process and allow yourself to mull their ideas over. The part of you that likes to see others put forth effort and manage their share of responsibilities will better appreciate your partner if you give them the chance to impress you.
You tend to have an intolerance for mess and lack of structure. This your dominant controlling trait making its presence known. A new partner may not be used to such high expectations. If you’ve been with your companion for a while, you might consider cutting him or her some slack – they need room to get a handle on their own personality, especially if yours is always bearing down and taking the lead in the relationship. It can be easy to lose one’s sense of self when such a dominant personality is around. Consider overlooking spaces that your partner considers to be inherently personal, such as a car or hobby room, so that your companion has a comfortable space that they can retreat to when they need to recharge.