As an ENFJ, you probably anticipate the opportunity to be useful in a relationship. If you don’t have a partner, then you’re most likely throwing yourself into all sorts of social activities, maybe even secretly hoping that Mr. or Ms. Right will be in attendance. Make sure that your efforts to find contentment in a long-lasting relationship does not involve utilizing your chameleon ability to mimic the behavior, thoughts, or feelings of others. If you aren’t being your true self then you may find yourself in a relationship where you don’t feel free to be you, and your desire to keep your companion happy could prevent you from ending such a relationship. Your total dedication to your mate, present or future, and your penchant for warmth and encouragement will bring out the best in your mate. Your hands-on nature and your fondness for making a plan, making a decision, and moving forward might get out of control sometimes. Remember to include your companion in any decisions that will affect him or her or your relationship.
If you find yourself hovering or asking your significant other too many worrisome questions (i.e. “What are you think about,” “How are you feeling right now,” “Can I do anything for you?”), remind yourself that these questions asked once in a while are acceptable – and even nurturing – but when asked in excess a partner may begin to feel smothered by your concern. A simple reminder once in a while that your significant other is free to come to you with anything should be sufficient. If, on the other hand, you pick up on signs that your mate is obviously concerned, distraught, or unhappy, then use your gift of gab to gently coax your significant other into opening up to you.
If your partner isn’t as much a social butterfly as yourself then try to tighten the reins on your social schedule a little. Don’t make yourself miserable, but consider that an always-packed schedule may quickly wear an individual down. Sometimes a fun evening at home – just you and your companion – can be enough to allow your significant other time to recharge their batteries in preparation for your next social outing.