ENFJs are very tuned in to what others are feeling and they genuinely want those they care about to be happy. This can often manifest into a form of generosity that has earned this persona the nickname “giver.” “Givers” have a genuine need to entertain and indulge others because they enjoy the sense of acceptance that comes from their actions. The ENFJ’s excellent communications skills and personable aura make it easy to not only talk to others but to strike up conversations with complete strangers – and leave them thoroughly charmed. “Givers” have a highly sensitive ability to pick up on what another individual is feeling and can usually get a person to open up with ease.
This need to be loved and accepted by others can go so deeply that an ENFJ may even drift into chameleon mode where he or she senses the moods and motives of others and imitates them. Essentially, they will become the type of individual that others want to be around. For the most part this is a harmless trait but it can become problematic if used in excess, especially around an ENFJ’s partner. The chameleon-like ability can be a wonderful tool when used to speak to a crowd of people, but even without the use of this ability the “giver” is a very charismatic and passionate speaker who has the ability to mesmerize others. “Givers” would do well in a leadership role such as a teacher, motivational speaker, or even a politician.
“Givers” are fun to be around. They have a welcoming nature that makes them very approachable and trustworthy. Typically, a friend or partner’s trust would be well-placed because ENFJ individuals have a strong sense of loyalty and a desire to make others happy. This type of personality is more likely to overlook whether social actions are right or wrong because they become so consumed with social normalcies and expectations and are driven by the desire to be accepted by others. On the other hand, ENFJs may become so desperate for approval from others that they may behave oddly or outside of the realm of social regularity. This may be portrayed as saying or doing something in public or around strangers that most people would consider inappropriate. “Givers” must be careful who they welcome into their circle of close friends, as the desire to avoid conflict can cause them to continuously overlook or forgive mistreatment by a “friend” or group of people.