Even though being single is amazing, the truth is that sometimes it is quite hard. Sometimes, you just want to have someone to hug you and to tell you everything will be all right. Someone to be your emotional support and partner in every possible way.
Yes, being single can be hard but being stuck in a crappy relationship from which you see no way out is way harder. Blaming yourself for wasting years on a man who never deserved you or chasing someone who doesn’t want to commit is more painful than sleeping alone at night.
Having someone who doesn’t give you back the love you deserve is more heartbreaking than not having someone to love you at all. Begging for a guy’s attention is much more humiliating than lacking attention.
Being the only one trying for a man who doesn’t have the decency to put some effort into his relationship with you is way more challenging than having to go through life alone. Making all the sacrifices and moving mountains for a man who isn’t even ready to make a compromise is tougher than being on your own.
Feeling like you are alone in a relationship is way worse than feeling lonely from time to time when you are single. Fighting against your loved one instead of side to side with him is harder than facing all of life’s difficulties by yourself.
Questioning someone’s feelings and trying to decode his mixed signals is the last thing you need in life. Allowing some asshole to break your heart just because you were afraid of ending up alone is something you’ll regret the most once you see that having someone screw up your life is way worse than being single.
So please, have all of this in mind the next time you think about jumping into a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship. Think about this the next time you think about settling for less just for the sake of having someone next to you.
Don’t get me wrong—this is not me telling you that all relationships are bad. This is not me advising you to spend the rest of your life alone, although there is nothing wrong with that either.
This is just me begging you to remain single until you find a man who makes love feel easy. Because that is exactly how true love should feel.
No matter what everyone tells you, real love should never hurt. Yes, it takes a lot of hard work but it should never drain all your energy and it should never be tiring or exhausting.
Instead of making your life harder, love should make it more beautiful. Instead of making you feel miserable, it should make you happier.
Instead of making you feel weak, it should make you stronger. Instead of making you insecure, it should make you feel safe and more powerful than ever.
Instead of diminishing your self-worth, true love should inspire you to do and be better. Instead of making you fall, it should make you rise.
True love will be a peaceful harbor. It will come with a man who will be your biggest support and strength. With a man who will never make you doubt his feelings and a man you can always rely on.
A man you can trust at all times and who won’t leave your side the moment things get rough. True love will come with a man who will feel like home.
Remember—this is the only type of love you deserve, the only type of love you are destined to have and the only type of love worthy of you abandoning your single life. And the only type of love you should wait for. Because this is the kind of love which will stay in your life forever.
Until a man who can give you this love walks into your life, please enjoy every moment of your single life. Don’t focus all of your energy on finding your Mr. Perfect, because he will come when you least expect it.
Just be patient and work on being the best possible version of yourself. Do the things that make you happy and make your life as fulfilling as possible. Everything else that is meant to be will come along the way—I promise you that.